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Discomfort is a fuel

  Start with groundedness, not motivation Motivation is unreliable. It shows up when you don't need it and disappears on the exact days you do. What you actually need on a hard day is groundedness — the ability to return to your work without drama, without needing things to feel perfect first. The trick is simpler than it sounds: commit to the first 15 minutes. Not the whole evening, not a two-hour deep work session. Just 15 minutes. Almost every time, the momentum carries you through the next hour on its own. "It's not about solving the problem — it's about staying with it. The discomfort is the point." Don't change the success metric After a difficult day, the temptation is to lower the bar, to call it a win just for showing up. Resist it. Adjusting your standards downward on hard days teaches your brain that struggle is a valid reason to stop caring. Keep the goal the same. Your purpose isn't to impress anyone or earn approval. It's larger than that...

STEP YOUR FOOT OUT OF THE HOUSE - NO EDIT

Hello world, today was a bit of an off day. Especially the morning, something needs to change for the morning routine. The way I wake up, somewhere down the line, I feel the bed is where a lot of lust really comes in. If I stay silent and keep doing what's required of me, just stay silent and keep doing what we need to be doing. Something in me needs to change so that I don't stay in the bed for a long period of time. Somehow, we need to be away from the bed. The moment you are away from bed, you are able to do something and achieve something in life. So stay away from bed. I will come to the discipline part. I will come to the part where we need to be talking to people. I will come to the part where we need to be doing things like pickle ball or something. But there's definitely some sort of issues that we have during the time. But all said and done, we need to find our best identity for Saturday and Sunday and we genuinely need to find the solution out here. We need to me...

Activity: Wellness & Growth

There's a concept in  Ikigai  that stopped me mid-page: the idea that the people who live longest and most joyfully are those who never really stop. Not because they're workaholics, but because they stay curious, engaged, and alive to the world around them. That idea planted a question I haven't been able to shake,  how  do we actually do that? Not the  why . The why is easy. Activity, mental or physical, produces dopamine. It gives us something to work toward and keeps our edges sharp. The harder, more interesting question is the how. What does mental activity actually look like? Mental activity isn't just reading a book or doing a crossword. It's the full spectrum of cognitive engagement, playing a strategy game with a friend, teaching a complicated concept to your team, writing out a philosophical argument, or wrestling with a problem that has no clean answer. What matters most is that the activity is  effortful . Learning something you're already good a...

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It's a happy happy birthday to me. So to all the readers thank you, thank you for your kind wishes. Thank you for reading the blog and thank you for being a part of the journey. Today I realised an important thing. It was tough to recognise this but I realised that overworking is harmful. In fact, it was less about overworking but being online while working. I had some back and forth messages with folks and that caused quite a lot of trouble. So what we really want to be doing is that we should not have too many back and forth messages but we need to continue doing the work quickly and smoothly. There can be multiple errors during the time but go ahead quietly and keep on working during those times. I have also had an issue when I overworked. ## Overworking takes away structure When I work, I tend to sit in one place for one hour. That's it, that's the success metric. I also tend to review PRs effectively during the time. So when I tend to over work, I forget that the one h...

Plan today !

 Today is one of those days where I am going to write for a period of 60 minutes. As and with silence, to me it is scary. Silence really is scary to me. It takes me out of my comfort zone but I am well aware that the real growth will happen beyond the comfort zone. The area which is hard, the area that is difficult, but that's exactly the area where we need to be in stillness. I have some friends coming over and there's a certain excitement for them. I'm going to take the 30 day challenge from Cal for no social media. Instead we want to replace it with positive activities. We've spoken about that topic about no social media from a quite long time. Today we want to discuss how does no social media really benefit you and the problems you will have when you quit.  ## Hard and discomfort Whenever we start something be it anything, whether it's going to the gym or whether that's stopping social media all together. The first few minutes or the first 3-4 days are going...

Back to basics

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  Everytime I get lost in the daily grinds of life, I come to this beautiful text by Bhagavad Gita. Do everything you have to to do. But not with greed. Not with Ego. Not with lust. Not with envy. But with love, compassion, humility and devotion. This is a beautiful line and technically one of the most important teachings from Bhagavad Gita. Let's try and expand this thought a little bit. ## Greed A lot of times we do certain things because we want more money, because we want a better car, we want better everything and we want more and more. However, in the process of wanting more and more, we tend to forget what we really have. After all, we need to keep ourselves in check of what we have. We might want more. We all do. We are humans. We are bound to slip. However, to simplify greed is about taking. Greed is not about giving or providing value. If we do everything with the purpose of greed or something that's materialistic, we would never be able to achieve the transcends of l...

Structure is boring, structure is uncomfortable, structure is space and space is luxury

Before I begin, this is for you. This is about structure. Because the more structure we bring into our lives, the better everything becomes. I have seen this in my own life. Over the past few months, I have grown, learned, and improved at a pace I did not think was possible. And if I am being honest, it all comes down to one thing: structure. Without structure, consistency breaks. Without consistency, impact disappears. And if we truly want to solve difficult problems and help people at scale, structure is not optional. It is essential. Structure Means Staying Still When It’s Hard Structure is not just about planning your day. It is about being stable when things are uncertain. It is about: Being okay with ambiguity Being okay with discomfort Being okay even when things are not okay There will be days when nothing feels right. But those are the days where structure matters the most. Because structure is what keeps your values intact when your emotions are unstable. It is what allows yo...