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There are seasons in life when impulse feels stronger than intention. You are doing well for weeks, structured, focused, disciplined. Then suddenly, there is a slip. A moment of weakness. A quick decision made for temporary comfort. The challenge is not that urges exist. The challenge is what we choose to do with them. If we want to step up in life, whether in relationships, career, creativity, or leadership, we must understand one fundamental principle. Self control is not suppression. It is direction. This is not just about avoiding distractions. It is about converting energy. Urges Are Natural. Surrender Is Optional. Urges are human. Desire is human. Impulse is human. Sexual energy in particular is one of the most powerful forces within us. It has sustained our species for thousands of years. Pretending it does not exist is unrealistic. Being ruled by it is dangerous. When we give in to every impulse, we become reactive. When we pause and redirect, we become powerful. There is a dee...

 It's becoming extremely hard for me these days to control my impulse. While I have been good for the most part, there are moments of slip ups that I am having. For an example, yesterday and day before yesterday I was throwing into watching porn for relaxing my mind. I do not think that's a good idea. We need to have self-control as all of our life is dependent on that amount of self control. While I know it's important to enjoy the process and all that good stuff, it should not come at the expense of structure. If I really want to step up to the challenge that she is giving me, I need to focus well. I need to know what's right and what's wrong.  So today, like every other day, we are not going to be talking about self control only. The reality is this. What really happens is this. When we are not watching porn, when we are not caught up with lust, we are able to give so much more. That's the first thing. The second thing is knowing that all of this is difficult...

There are days when clarity comes easily. And then there are days when you simply sit down to write because you know you must. Today is the latter. Not because there is nothing to say, but because the lesson is simple and needs repetition more than reinvention. The idea is this: do not do anything for attention. Do it quietly. In silence. Keep working on yourself. Recently, I reflected on something I heard from  Cal Newport  about the importance of a morning routine. A structured start to the day creates momentum. Without structure, distraction creeps in. Without direction, self control weakens. And without purpose, silence becomes uncomfortable. Silence, in this context, is not merely the absence of noise. It is the absence of chaos. It is the ability to concentrate deeply on a task without feeling the need to announce it to the world. When you are fully immersed in your work, that is silence. The Discipline of Not Announcing Your Moves There is a powerful shift that happens ...

Pressure and Diamonds We often hear the phrase that pressure creates diamonds. Scientifically, graphite transforms into diamond under immense pressure and structure. The question is whether human beings can do the same. I believe we can. Pressure does not have to collapse us. It can refine us. But only if we respond with structure instead of chaos. When most people face pressure, they panic. They rush. They context switch. They look busy. That is chaos. True pressure is different. Pressure is when you know what needs to be done, but time compresses around you. Growth happens in that compression. The key is structure. For me, structure means working in focused one hour blocks. It means staying with the problem. It means reducing unnecessary conversation and limiting context switching. It means reaching out for help intentionally rather than reacting emotionally. Pressure handled with structure leads to growth. Pressure handled with panic leads to burnout. The difference between chaos an...

Today was a mistake. A mistake as in, I saw porn. It's bad. I thought it's a good way to relieve some stress. But it's absolutely a pathetic decision. I need to get back to my own way of working. The problem I believe is that I did not have a plan after coming home. Moreover, when I do not write I do not feel good as well. Like we have always said this before, self discipline is an identity. I understand there would be days where the phone happens to come in between of us and the goals. But then we have to get back again. It's day one again. Now let's try and eliminate phone from our lives and replace with good habits. I think what I need is a TT racket now, I am really excited to play the game of TT. Moreover, I have to stop thinking about the results a lot. So well, TT racket and a ball is what we want right now. Once we have a tt racket, it would be good to practice certain spins during the time. It's important to have the accessories though.  Let's talk ...

Learning the difference is what separates the burned out from the truly great. Quick question. Be honest. Do you approach every single task at work with the same laser-focused, jaw-clenched, I-will-conquer-this energy? If yes, congratulations. You are also probably exhausted, slightly resentful, and wondering why your best work still isn't good enough. The engineer who attacks a repo access request with the same intensity as designing a brand new API isn't being diligent. They're just burning through fuel they needed for the real race. Here's the uncomfortable truth: working hard on the wrong things, with the wrong amount of energy, is still working wrong. The real skill nobody teaches you? Knowing  what kind of work  each task actually demands. Not more effort. Better judgment. The Three Buckets of Work (Yes, Only Three) Almost every task you'll ever do at work fits into one of three buckets. Get this right and your energy stops leaking. Get it wrong and you'll...