Why Communicating Through Emotions to Make People Feel Important and Valued is Essential

 At the heart of human interaction lies one fundamental truth: people remember how you make them feel. More than the things you do for them, it's the emotional impact you leave behind that shapes lasting relationships. When you make someone feel important and valued, you touch their sense of worth, and in doing so, you strengthen connections, build trust, and create an atmosphere of mutual respect and support.

People do more for you when you make them feel important. Think about this, imagine if you have done something special for others, you made someone else feel important and valued. This makes them feel better about themselves and then you know what they do, they try to give back something like that in return. No matter what, the idea is to make others feel important. I have had friends who make me feel important and I just feel more gratitude towards them and when their chance comes I also do make them feel important. This is what a normal person thinks like. 

You can influence people as well. When you make them feel important and valued, you can influence people very easily. It's the same thing, when people around you feel valued and important, they feel better about themselves and as a result they are empowered to do more things and in doing more things, they will also make you feel important as well. After all an eye for an eye will make the whole world blind. In recognising that we have the power to make people feel important and valued, we really need to let go of our judgmental thoughts about others. We might think that this person is this way or that way, but the reality is people are what they are. It's the circumstances, the situations, and their own thoughts that make people act that way. So remember again to make people feel important in order to influence the world. 

People do remember when we make them feel valued and important. No matter what happens, no one would naturally forget a time when we make them feel less important and no one will forget a time when we make them feel more important. However, we need to take actions continuously to make the world feel important. Now, I also wanted to touch base on a topic, where we understand the thin line between boundaries and making the world feel important. I will talk about that later. 

But first let's talk a little bit about how can we make people feel important? 

These are some really interesting things that we can do to make people feel important: 

1. Use their name: As Dale Carnegie suggests, the most important and the valuable word in a person's dictionary is the name of that individual. So always address people by their name and talk to them by their name. Don't over do it, but it's a subtle way to communicate their importance.

2. Express sincere gratitude: One needs to be thankful for everything a person does for you. For an example, if a friend gave you a charger for free for some time, it's important to remember and recognise that. Even simple acts of kindness if someone does we should remember that and express our sincere gratitude in doing so. 

3. Do more listening than talking: We all like good speakers, but what we like even more are good listeners. So 80% of conversation is listening and the rest 20% is speaking. So make sure you listen very well with a clear intent of understanding the other person rather than just listening. 

4. Talk more about them than about you: I am personally guilty of making mistakes like these but as individuals we need to talk more about others rather than us all the time. Everyone is more interested in themselves and people love talking about themselves more than they love talking about you or others. 

5. Be authentically interested: 

As Dale Carnegie said, you can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get people interested in you.  So remember the goal is to be interested in others not interesting. 

6. Be sincere in your praise: 

Another beautiful quote by Dale Carnegie, "Give honest, sincere appreciation. Be hearty in your approbation and lavish in your praise." and people will cherish your words and treasure them and repeat them over a lifetime. Repeat them years after you have forgotten them. This is what it means to be praise other people. It should be sincere and in fact you should write down the qualities that you genuinely admire about the other person and appreciate it to the core and then you will be able to give very clear and genuine admiration to other people. 

7. Show you care: Whenever you get a chance, ask them how are you doing? If someone is injured check on their health. If someone is not doing them, financially, check on them, not saying to give away money but always show that you care about the other person. Then when someone is emotionally hurt, check on them. Your simple word can mean millions of dollars and more to them. 

Now there's a difference between boundaries and making people feel important: 

With simple examples, for an example you have an exam tomorrow, or you have work tomorrow and your friends say that we are going to a friends birthday party at 12am, you can politely say no and create a clear boundary regarding the same. However, let's say you are at your friends birthday party and 8:00 pm, that's when you make people feel important. It's important to keep your priorities intact while you make the other person feel important. In fact even if you miss a birthday party and text your friend sorry for not attending your party and tell them you had work tomorrow morning, I am sure they will understand. After all we are all humans and we understand stuff. So keep your priorities the same and if you have clashing priorities, you say no to the other priorities and say yes to the other. 

That's the reason prioritisation of your life is very important and this will make it easy for you to make people feel important.