Open communication. I feel it's so important to communicate openly. So here we go about this. There are a few quotes I want to expand on.
Honest, open communication is the only street that leads us into the real world.... We then begin to grow as never before. And once we are on this road, happiness cannot be far way. But what he says is that honest open communication is required that will lead us into the real world. Imagine what happens when we say we are unable to talk about our insecurities. We are unable to communicate certain things that we are feeling. We are unable to communicate who we are to the world. Life becomes so tough in such cases. In fact I feel sometimes talking about the hard things makes us feel lighter. A lot lighter than ever before. So what is open communication in its truest form? What does it really mean? To me its just a style of communication where everyone can speak openly and transparently. Everyone feels comfortable and confident speaking their mind, without the fear of judgement or negative consequences.
I feel like more such spaces should be created where we are able to communicate openly and transparently. Without honest communication, relationships stagnate. Misunderstandings build. We project instead of connect. But when we speak our truth, and listen to others without judgment, we create fertile ground for trust, intimacy, and mutual understanding. It's in this space, where authenticity is met with acceptance, that real transformation begins. We grow because we're finally seen and heard, and because we allow others to be seen and heard too. This growth isn't just emotional. It touches every part of our lives: decision-making becomes clearer, boundaries healthier, and our sense of identity more grounded. We learn who we really are, not who we pretend to be, and that opens the door to genuine change.
In relationships (personal or professional):
Instead of bottling things up or pretending things are fine, you speak up, kindly but clearly. You say, “I felt hurt when that happened,” or “I’m confused about your expectations,” instead of staying silent or passive aggressive. This clears the air and prevents long-term resentment or miscommunication.
At work:
You give real feedback, not just what you think people want to hear. You admit when you made a mistake instead of covering it up. This builds trust and makes collaboration smoother and more effective.
With yourself:
Being honest with yourself is just as important. You stop making excuses and start owning your choices. You say, “I’m procrastinating because I’m scared of failing,” rather than “I just didn’t have time.” That’s the starting point of real self-growth.
Growth happens here:
Once you drop the act and start being real, with others and yourself, things start to shift. You face challenges head-on, build stronger relationships, and stop wasting energy managing fake versions of yourself. That’s real growth. That’s living in the "real world."
But good healthy communication is impossible without openness, honesty and vulnerability. I mean these three ingredients are extremely essential in real life. Openness means that you're open about your insecurity. Honesty means you say the truth no matter what the consequences and vulnerability the most important of all is to say how you feel about something without worrying too much about anything. I like this idea. Basically, its very simple in a way. Good healthy communication is impossible without openness, honesty and vulnerability. Instead of keeping it this complicated, it's better we have more honesty itself and honesty in itself curtains openness and vulnerability. So, go ahead and be honest with yourself and with the world. Don't worry about attraction. Don't worry about doing it right. Just do it. Go ahead and be honest. Say what you want to say, and think what you want to think. Do whatever you want to do.
Communicate. Even when it's uncomfortable or uneasy. One of the best ways to heal is simply getting everything out. I don't care too much about attraction or things like that but I believe in communication. Any sort of communication is important. Imagine bottling up your feelings and then feeling stress. Rather get everything out. Either through writing or through talking. That way you can be more of yourself. Have you seen a bottle when you fill it water what happens ? It gets heavy when you put in the water. Or a better example would be hold a glass of water for 5 minutes, and nothing happens, hold a glass of water for 10 minutes you start hurting, hold a glass of water for 1hr, what happens you totally crash. Its the same thing with feelings kept inside or the grudges you keep. If you keep holding on to it, you will lose it. If you keep worrying about things you will lose it. Don't do things because of attraction, just be yourself. If you lose it, you lose it. Whatever happens happens. So go ahead and communicate, even when it's uncomfortable or uneasy. You will feel bad. You will feel hurt. But know that its okay to feel hurt and sad. You might have to keep on working at your personal self. But all of that is okay but you might ask, how do we communicate about things when they are uncomfortable? You just do it. Are there any practical tips of communicating when things are uncomfortable? Yes there are.
1. Get Clear on Your Intention First:
Before speaking, ask yourself:
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What do I really want from this conversation?
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Am I trying to solve a problem, express a boundary, or just be heard?
2. Name the Discomfort Gently:
You don’t have to pretend everything's fine. Acknowledge the awkwardness—it often lowers the emotional tension.
Example:
"This feels a little uncomfortable to bring up, but I think it’s important."
3. Use “I” Statements:
Stick to what you feel and think. It prevents the other person from getting defensive.
Instead of:
"You never listen to me."
Try:
"I feel unheard when I try to share something important and it seems like it's brushed off."
4. Be Direct, But Kind:
Don’t sugarcoat to the point that your message gets lost. Be clear and respectful.
Tip: Kindness isn’t the same as being vague. You can be both honest and gentle.
5. Regulate Your Emotions:
If you feel overwhelmed, it's okay to pause or take a break.
Example:
“I want to have this conversation, but I need a moment to collect my thoughts.”
6. Listen More Than You Speak:
Uncomfortable conversations aren’t just about saying your piece. They’re about understanding too.
7. Don’t Aim for Immediate Resolution:
It’s okay if things don’t get fully solved in one talk. Sometimes clarity and honesty are the first steps, and resolution comes later.
8. Follow Up:
Circle back after the conversation. It shows you care and keeps the dialogue open.
Example:
“Thanks for hearing me out earlier. I know it wasn’t easy. I appreciate your openness.”
Exercise: Think of a conversation you've been avoiding. Write down what you feel, what you need, and how you can say it kindly. Practice saying it out loud to yourself, starting with: “This might be a bit uncomfortable, but…”
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