Thoughts

 Something just motivated me to write about acceptance today and how powerful it really is. I believe acceptance gives you a lot of freedom that's important in life. I am talking about self-acceptance. A lot of times we think about whether he or she or the world will accept me or not. But the truth is you need to accept yourself, the way you are first and then try and improve parts of you, you wish to change. If you don't have self acceptance, you don't have the right to complain if the world accepts you or not.  There are countless quotes on self acceptance and I can go on and on about what self acceptance is. But in a brief way, I want to go through some of my favourite quotes.  I love this, they say the first step towards change is awareness and the second step is acceptance. So so beautiful. Now, why is the first step towards change is awareness, a lot of times in life, we think we are on the right path because we are not aware about the path we are on. We are just s...

 I genuinely wonder what is Charisma really is and how do we develop it. It's such an easy word to use but what does it really mean? Is it the same thing as charm? Is it something else? What exactly is charisma? I have seen people use the word so often but unfortunately I have not really seen how it's developed. Researchers at the University of Toronto charisma in terms of 2 factors :  1. Influence : This is the ability of an individual to stay in the present. It's the presence of a particular individual that has a strong presence within a room.  2. Affability: This trait was defined as being approachable and pleasant. So this are the 2 factors that contribute to charm. Your total score of charisma is based on these metrics:  1. Presence in the room 2. Has the ability to influence people around them 3. Knows how to lead a group 4. Makes people feel comfortable 5. Smiles at people often 6. Can get along with anyone.  These are the 6 factors that they defined char...

 What happens when there's plenty of rain out and you need to go somewhere. Do you try to stop the rain or do you carry the umbrella with you? What happens when things are not going your way, do you try to change the way things go, or do you try to improve your processes and focus on what's at hand? What happens when people speak rudely, can you control them speaking rudely or can you control on being assertive in the situation and saying exactly what needs to be said? Imagine you are playing cricket and the batsman is hitting the balls left and right, but as a bowler you can only control your line and the length, not the way a batsman hits the ball? So my point here is a lot of times we worry too much about the uncontrollable. Now what's uncontrollable? A batsman hitting a shot on a good delivery is an uncontrollable for us. People thinking and reacting differently is an uncontrollable for us, winning or losing is uncontrollable what's in our control is to play the bal...

Why Should We Go Outside Every Day? Ever noticed how a simple walk in the sun can lift your spirits? Whether you're playing a sport, enjoying a coffee, or just taking a stroll, being outside seems to have a magical effect on our mood and well-being. But why exactly does this happen? Let's delve into the reasons. The Benefits of Sunlight 1. Source of Vitamin D Sunlight is a major source of vitamin D, which is crucial for our health. A deficiency in vitamin D can lead to various issues such as: Sleep problems Exhaustion and fatigue Bone and muscle pain Depression and mood changes Hair loss Pale skin Tingling in hands Increased susceptibility to illness Contrast this with the benefits of just 30 minutes of sunlight daily, and it's clear which option is preferable. 2. Increases Serotonin Serotonin is a neurotransmitter that plays a key role in mood regulation, memory, and learning. Exposure to sunlight increases serotonin levels, which: Boosts happiness Enhances mood Helps comb...

A lot of times in our lives, we get into a situation where we are hurt by people not really listening and understanding us. There are days that we don't have good conversations with people, there are days when more issues start to creep in, there are days when we feel ignored, because someone's not listening when you are talking. I genuinely wonder during such days, what's the problem that's really happening? Is it the stress in someone's life that's making them not listen or maybe its just the attention span that a person has, or maybe its just that they are consuming too much media and they have literally filled their mind with so much dopamine that it becomes impossible for them to listen. There are various reasons that are seen in real life, maybe people fear something. But here's a small discussion on why listening is so much more important than talking or listening makes talking easy and then let's discuss how can we listen more and in a better way...

 This is for men most likely, or maybe it can help even women. During such social media days, there are always going to be people who are likely to chase other people, be it men chasing women or women chasing men. In fact at some point in my life, I am also guilty doing something similar just to realise and recognise that's it's simply a waste of time, energy, effort and even resources. Although time is the most important resource, by resource I meant money, or materialistic things in the context. So why is it that chasing men/women is a sheer waste of time and it's not the same as pursuing a woman or a man.  Firstly understand that chasing means that you don't really love the person. It's the idea of a person that you are loving and not the person entirely. The idea of getting the person because of his/her beauty, looks or social status but that does not mean that you love the person. When I talk from a perspective of a man, it's important that chasing a woman ...

 We all have heard the story of the hare and the tortoise where the hare got tired in the middle of the race, slept while the tortoise who was slow but steady overtook the race and won the race. In this article, I am going to talk about why does slow and steady really win you the race.  1. Consistency over intensity:   Do you remember how you were taught to write and read? You were first taught a,b,c,d, e...z and then incrementally you were taught rat, bat, cat, dog, etc by looking at the pictures. Would you be able to learn the spelling encyclopaedia if you were not taught a,b,c or rat, cat,dog, etc. Not at all right, so that's where we all start and incrementally take on more and more challenging stuff. Going directly over encyclopaedia would definitely make you lose hope, and sometimes even confidence. So being consistent while learning and adapting to incremental challenges will make sure you stay consistent over time.  2. Avoid burnout: Completing more than huma...