Pursue Purpose, Not People

 This is for men most likely, or maybe it can help even women. During such social media days, there are always going to be people who are likely to chase other people, be it men chasing women or women chasing men. In fact at some point in my life, I am also guilty doing something similar just to realise and recognise that's it's simply a waste of time, energy, effort and even resources. Although time is the most important resource, by resource I meant money, or materialistic things in the context. So why is it that chasing men/women is a sheer waste of time and it's not the same as pursuing a woman or a man. 

Firstly understand that chasing means that you don't really love the person. It's the idea of a person that you are loving and not the person entirely. The idea of getting the person because of his/her beauty, looks or social status but that does not mean that you love the person. When I talk from a perspective of a man, it's important that chasing a woman will leave you broke, hurt and disappointed at times. However, chasing success or money will give you both, success as well as money. People might think that it's stupid to chase success or money but dude just focus on that and you will have women chasing you. All of that's cool, but what about settling down, this, that and bullshit like that. As far as settling down is concerned, you don't need to worry, you can make babies with a 30 year old woman but a woman can't. So the pressure of a biological clock on a woman is always more than a man. I know this might be one of the most controversial blogs to talk about, but it's important to recognise this as a man. 

Here's the thing that Mr. Piers Morgan said, don't chase women, they will chase you. They are like horses in a pasture. If you don't go drooling over her, she is going to want to know why. Remember chasing is a losing game, particularly talking to boys. If you really want to chase something, chase a purpose, chase a hobby, chase something that makes you alive, whether that's sports, music, dancing or even acting. Something that's bigger than an individual. 

This is one of my favourite quotes, do not chase people, even men or women. Just do your own thing and work hard, people who belong in your life will come to you and stay. Now by people it also means, don't chase friends, don't chase girls, don't chase men(for the girls) be you and do your own stuff. That's all there's to life, no complications. Have you seen Virat Kohli, go to the fans and say, please like me, I am your hero, no right? A hero does extraordinary things and that's what people like him or her for. And as Kapil Dev says, what else we here for? You can get good conversations, good food or good treatment from anyone in the world but only when your concentration is on your work and not people. 

Haha this one's funny, I don't know how true is this, but there's definitely some truth to it. If you chase women, you'll lose money but if you chase money, you'll not lose women. Haha, maybe this is true to a certain extent. At the end of it all the message is not chasing but being, if you want someone, you need to Pray to God, have a relationship with God, your parents, brothers and sisters. These are the individuals who genuinely want you to succeed and no one else. My message is simple, the first step to this is setting goals, reaching them, connecting to normal people but not chasing them. Talking about ideas not people. These are all fundamental pillars in life, a woman can leave but your goals once achieved are with you forever. So remember this and keep yourself detached from women or even men(for the women). 

Whenever you chase people, remind yourself of the self respect. Remind yourself of your amazing skills and know that you are the price and not someone else. Keep your boundaries intact and work towards your goals, that's all there is to life. If you lose people in the process that's a part of the process and so be it ! 

Final Message: Your worth is not determined by what you chase or whom you chase, its the goals you achieve, its the people you impact through good thoughts, beliefs and intentions and chasing goals will make you a better version of yourself.

Edit: Things that you should really really love, whole heartedly: 

1. Music

2. Dance

3. Humour. 

4. Cricket/Football/Sports

5. Learning anything new, a new language, a new skill like swimming, etc

6. Art/Painting

7. Writing

8. Family time

9. Cooking

You can keep adding more but abhi ke liye itna kaafi hai :D 

Exercise: 

Write down the people in your life whom you chased(not pursued), write how did they make you feel(powerful or powerless), write down this one sentence and read it out loud every single day, "I will not chase anyone in my life, all I will chase is goals".