The power of acceptance

The power of acceptance. I was listening to something where the speaker said, "Jisse pa liya ussi ko muqaddar samajh liya aur jise kho diya usse mein bhulata chala gaya. " Now, how beautiful is this line where the speaker gives us the importance of acceptance. What that line meant is that whatever you have gotten in life, you believe that's the destiny and whatever you don't get, that's something that you keep forgetting and moving forward. That's accepting the reality as it is. What do we truly mean by acceptance? Acceptance in a way means accepting the bad parts. It's easy to accept the good parts, but acceptance means accepting the way that you look, even if you are skinny, fat, etc. I am not saying that don't work hard towards looking better, but accepting the way that you look is also equally important in life. Accept that part of you which is not so perfect. Accept your imperfections, accept your faults, accept your short comings. That's self-acceptance. Moreover, you also accept certain things that you are good at. You are good at a lot of things in life and that's also you need to accept. The true meaning of self-love is accepting the best and the worst parts of you. I feel acceptance gives you a lot of scope to improve as well. Once you accept that you are not that great at something, you can improve that aspect of life. 

Why is it important to be accepting. By accepting I mean accepting everything that there is in the world. As I get older, I feel like I am becoming wiser. I have seen friends lose hair, I have seen some people get fatter, I have seen some people having skin insecurities, I have seen people losing parents, I have seen people getting ill, but along with getting older, I have recognized that true love means true acceptance. All of these are the realities of life, that people go through. But in all of this, acceptance is the power and the gift that we can give to the world. I feel like the more we accept the better. Like self-love is self-acceptance. So is true love, accepting the world as it is and the way it is. It's not necessarily that you have to love only the good parts but true love is also accepting the bad parts because imperfection is a reality and so is love.

Moreover, I have played sports for over 15-20 years now. I understand the pain of the defeat, but I also understand that accepting this defeat, the pain only helps you become better. Life in its own form will show you greater pains, greater hurts and even greater difficulties. Imagine how Steve Jobs would have felt when he was thrown out of his own company. Imagine how betrayed Dk would have felt. But in the end, it's life and it's the one who accepts defeat and comes back stronger wins. I know things do get a bit difficult at times. I was personally feeling a lot of pain when I saw a woman I liked is in a relationship with someone else. That's the day, I realised that life is not about that. Life is about getting back stronger. Life is about accepting that you messed up. Life is about accepting defeats, and getting back stronger. 

Although, we all get sad, we all feel anxious in the moment that we are not good enough but keep your chin up and work towards your goals. That's what will truly make you feel special and wonderful. It's not about getting ahead of someone but more about getting to the best version of yourself. Accept, learn and don't repeat your mistakes and always believe in yourself. The idea is that when you believe in what you can achieve, you can achieve unimaginable heights. But the first thing is to believe in yourself. Because that's what you are made up of. Remember, Hardik Pandya, he got betrayed by his wife, but look at his comeback from there. He won a World Cup from there. He gave the best shot of his life. 

I love this quote. Panic causes tunnel vision. Calm acceptance of danger allows us to more easily assess the situation and see the options. That's such a wonderful thought. Think about this, pain causes tunnel vision. Which means that when you experience pain, you wouldn't be able to see the path clearly. However, calm acceptance of danger allows us to more easily asses the situation and see the options. Which means that the moment you accept that there is danger, or there are things that are giving you pain. For example, let's say you failed an exam. Pain will give you a path where you wouldn't be able to see clearly. However, the moment you accept that you failed an exam and now what? You will be able to see what you can do to turn the tide. Pain gives you an opportunity to redirect and that's the power of acceptance. Now I accepted that Arushi is dating someone else and she plans to marry that guy. Now what? Do I need to change anything? Absolutely not. Rather I would need to reassess the plans with a sense of calm. I would have to play the game again and be the master of the game again. 

Accept - then act. Whatever the present moment contains, accept it as if you had chosen it. Always work with it, not against it... This will miraculously transform your whole life. Accept then act. Accept your defeat and start working towards becoming a better player. Accept that you didn't do well in the exams and start having better study techniques, better skills, and you will eventually become a better student. Let's say you failed in a relationship, accept it. Now, become a better communicator, have better texting strategies, and have a long term thought to it. Work towards becoming the better version of you. Let's say you didn't do well in some other aspect of life, now try to see if you can change your methodologies. Often, we stick to the same method and get the same results. If you are attracting women, focus on emotions and not on logic. So that way you can become a better communicator with women. You will have better stability. And try to become and more stable. You should be unshakable when a women tests you. You shouldn't really run away or give up on people. Work on becoming somebody who's supportive. What should be the strategy? That's something you need to decide on and clarify in your life. 

Think about it, why is acceptance the foundation of change? 

1. Clarity over illusion: 

When we resist a situation, we cloud our judgements with emotions, assumptions and biases. Acceptance clears this got and allows us to see things objectively, the way they are. You cannot solve a problem if you refuse to admit it exists. 

2. Shifting from why me to what's next: Whenever something bad happens, we start to wonder why me? Why not someone else in my position? We start worrying about various things and that's why we start to care about what's next. The idea is to do what's next and just do it. Don't worry about anything else and just do it. Your version should not be about why me, it's should know the what's next and keep having the clarity of what's next. 

3. Emotional Freedom: We suffer not because of reality but because of our resistance to reality. Acceptance dissolves the unnecessary suffering. It doesn't mean we liked what happened, but we acknowledge it so that we can move forward. 

4.Power to choose: You can only take meaningful action when you accept your starting point. That's the first step towards transformation. When you accept where you are, you have the power to choose your starting point and move forward from there. Not necessary that your situation will be better, but for the most part you will do well in life. That's the general rule of thumb. 

Summary: 

Acceptance is not giving up; it is waking up. It is the moment you stop wishing things were different and start working to make them better. It is the bridge between what is and what could be. And once you cross that bridge, change is inevitable.

 Take One Small Action Immediately

Action: Take one small step toward change today. Not tomorrow. Today.
Example:

* Failed an exam? → Solve one question from a past paper.

* Rejected by someone? → Plan something fun for yourself.

* Health issues? → Drink an extra glass of water today.

Why?: Momentum builds from small actions, not big plans.