Uncomfortable Feelings: Embracing Yourself Beyond Judgment
I am just going to write something for the next 30 minutes. I am still not sure on what will I be writing but yesterday when I was on a video call, I was getting very uncomfortable feelings and felt like I need to work on my video call skills. Although it's important but that's not the topic. But the topic is uncomfortable feelings. Why we should know what makes us feel uncomfortable and why we should work on making that uncomfortable feeling comfortable. So yeah, that's what we are going to talk about. Uncomfortable feelings.
Just to start with an example out here, I was on a video call with my team where we were introducing each other and when we were introducing each other there was a natural thought in our head about each and everyone. We were looking for validation externally most of us in the video call. We were trying to look cool and sound great. However, at the end of the video call, I thought this expectation about us did put a lot of pressure on us. The only way to curb this pressure is to not worry about who's thinking what and still be yourself while talking. So that's what I learnt on the video call. The moment you stop thinking what the world is thinking about you or how the world is judging you you will be yourself and truly truly yourself. Your anxiety will disappear, your confidence will reappear. I mean who are you to think that you are lesser than anyone else in the world? You are absolutely not. No body has the right to call you lesser other than you. You have to listen to your mind and say that you are the best. No matter what the world says, if you believe it, you believe it. That's it.
The idea here is to stop caring about what the world will think about you. Start validating yourself based on yourself. Don't take feedback that you don't feel is true. Now think about this, all of your stigmas, all of your doubts, all of your questions don't come because of what you think of yourself, but what you think that the world thinks of you. For example, if I would have worried too much about how the world will perceive this blog of mine, I would have never created this blog right? I am sure there would be people who would dislike my writing and there would be people who would like my writing? So if I keep worrying about who will think what of my writing, I will never able to post things that I really wish right? Let's accept it the world is judgemental and critical, but the only way to get over that is to not worry about what the world thinks about you or your blog.
Imagine you are young and you start dancing, however in one of your stage performance you fall and you are embarrassed really bad, now you stop dancing completely till the last breath of your life. The amount of regret of not dancing is too high, than the worry of what will happen if I don't do well in the dance, people will laugh, let them laugh, people will love it, let them love it, you do what you do. Because as PC said, Roti's gonna rotate, potatoes gonna potate, but you do what you do. Wow, so good. I am again repeating this, stop caring about what the world thinks of you. Worry about what you think of yourself.
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