The Path of a Superior Man: Living with Purpose, Presence, and Depth

 Just an excerpt from the way of a superior man. Here we go: 

One of the deepest feminine pleasures is when a man stands full, present and unreactive in the midst of his woman's emotional storms. I love this quote. This quote beautifully captures the essence of emotional strength and stability in a relationship. It speaks to a deep feminine yearning—the desire to feel safe, seen, and fully accepted, even in moments of emotional turmoil.

For many women, emotions can be like waves, sometimes calm, sometimes stormy. When a man remains steady, fully present, and unshaken during these storms, it signals that he is a safe harbor, someone she can trust with her deepest feelings. His ability to hold space without reacting impulsively or withdrawing allows her to feel secure in expressing her emotions without fear of judgment or abandonment.

This doesn't mean a man should be passive or indifferent. Rather, it’s about embodying a calm, loving presence—listening deeply, acknowledging emotions without trying to "fix" them, and standing firm in his own center. This unwavering presence communicates strength, which in turn fosters trust, intimacy, and respect in the relationship.

In essence, when a man can hold his ground with love and understanding, it allows a woman to fully express herself and ultimately return to a state of peace, feeling more deeply connected to him. It's an interplay of masculine stability and feminine fluidity, creating harmony between two energies.

A free man is free to acknowledge his fears without hiding them, or hiding from them. Live with your lips pressed against your fears, kissing your fears, neither pulling back or aggressively violating them. Now that's a very interesting thing. I love this quote. So a man should acknowledge that there is something that he fears. A man should however be kissing his fears, not pulling back or violating them. If you think and expand this thought, right from the start a man has been the person who protects and provides from the family. During the older years, a man would provide with physical strength, fight the wild animals and thus protect his own offspring. Similarly, as years pass by it's the same physical and emotional strength we need in a man. A man needs to still protect but for that he has to face the wild animals. He has to face his fears right where it hurts. It's okay to feel hurt and rejected but the man has to be the person who stands in between the wild bull and the family behind. In dieing and protecting the family is the greatest strength a man has. I want to be that man. I want to leave the shores of the known behind and go into the unknown. Not knowing what's next and going fearlessly over something is what's more important. I like living my freedom and going after what I want. No matter what happens, I cannot stop giving. I have realised that my Mom and Dad sometimes don't want me to give, however, I am a man and my purpose in life itself is giving. 

The way of a superior man is threefold, but I am not equal to it. Virtuous, he is free from anxieties; wise, he is free from perplexities; bold, he is free from fear. So what does this mean. Anxiety means the thought of future. Worry. That's anxiety. A superior man is away from anxiety. The next is perplexities. Perplexity means an inability to comprehend or understand something. A superior man is able to understand everything and deeply understands things from a mental perspective. Next is fear. A superior man does not fear rejection. It's the fear of rejection, embarrassment or even the fear of the world. A superior man is not fearful but goes ahead and does the work and gives his gift to the world. Now, I am not saying that all of this is the only thing about a superior man. Now, that I know what things are we want to be fearless. Completely fearless and completely giving. 

The way a man penetrates the world should be the same way he penetrates his woman; not merely for personal gain or pleasure but to magnify love, openness and depth. Now that's such a beautiful thing. 

1. Purpose Beyond Selfish Gains

A man should not move through life merely seeking pleasure, status, or temporary satisfaction. Instead, his actions—whether in career, relationships, or personal growth—should be guided by a desire to create, uplift, and connect. Just as love is not about taking but about giving, his approach to the world should be about contribution rather than mere consumption.

• If he builds a business, it should not just be for profit, but to add value to others' lives.
• If he pursues knowledge, it should not just be to be "better" than others, but to deepen understanding and wisdom.
• If he leads, it should not just be for control, but to inspire and guide with integrity.

2. Love as Expansion, Not Conquest

In relationships, love should not be transactional—based on what one gets—but transformative. When a man engages in love with depth, presence, and vulnerability, he creates a space where both partners feel fully seen and safe. True intimacy is about magnifying love, not just fulfilling a personal need.

• He doesn’t "take" from his partner but gives his full self—mind, body, and soul.
• He doesn’t treat intimacy as an act but as an exchange of energy, emotions, and growth.
• He doesn’t close off but opens up, making space for both passion and emotional depth.

3. Openness: Meeting the World with Receptivity

Just as love requires surrender and trust, so does life. The most powerful men aren’t those who rigidly control everything but those who remain open to life’s lessons, relationships, and experiences. They listen, learn, and evolve.

• Instead of resisting change, they embrace it.
• Instead of forcing things, they allow life to flow while guiding it with intent.
• Instead of being guarded, they let their authentic selves be seen—strong yet vulnerable, grounded yet adaptable.

4. Depth: Living and Loving with Fullness

A shallow life is one of mindless distractions, avoiding pain, and seeking fleeting highs. But true depth means embracing discomfort, facing fears, and diving into the richness of experience.

• In work, this means pursuing mastery, not shortcuts.
• In love, it means being emotionally present, not just physically.
• In life, it means seeking meaning, not just success.

Final Thought

This quote invites men to live and love with purpose, presence, and depth. The way a man engages with life mirrors how he engages in love. If he moves through the world with fear, avoidance, or self-interest, it will show in his relationships. But if he moves with courage, openness, and devotion, he will create a life—and love—filled with beauty, intensity, and true connection.