Love vs Lust

 

Love vs Lust: Choosing Wings Over Illusions

Yesterday wasn’t the best of days. A bad day can often teach us more than a good one, especially when it reveals our own weaknesses. What I realized is that controlling my body, my impulses, is one of the most important aspects of growth. It’s easy to get pulled into distractions like YouTube or social media, especially when life feels unsettled. But each time we give in, we lose momentum. We trade focus for fleeting illusions.

One of the strongest battles a man faces is with lust. It isn’t just about the act—it’s about the energy. Lust drains you, weakens you, makes you feel momentarily high but ultimately empty. When indulged, it sells you a fantasy of satisfaction, but afterward, it abandons you—leaving guilt, shame, and a limp in your spirit. It’s like drinking salt water: it feels like it quenches your thirst, but it leaves you more dehydrated. You think you’re enjoying yourself, but in reality, you’re tearing off your own wings.

Your wings are your strength, your willpower, your clarity, your ability to rise above impulses. Every indulgence plucks at those wings. Every moment of restraint strengthens them. The more you preserve your energy, the freer and more powerful you become. Lust is illusion, while love is reality. Lust consumes; love creates.

Converting Energy Into Creation

Lust is not just an impulse, it’s energy. And energy can be redirected. One of the most powerful ways to convert that energy is through creativity. Music, dance, poetry, writing, sports, or any creative pursuit transforms that restless energy into joy, beauty, and productivity. Like Sri Sri Ravi Shankar says, dance to devotional music and surrender. Whether devotional or not, music brings balance—it replaces restlessness with rhythm, emptiness with harmony.

When you play, create, or build something, lust has no hold on you. The trap of illusion loses power when your energy is flowing into creation.

Structure, Routine, and Strength

This fight is not won in one day. Consistency is the key. For me, that means:

  • Writing every morning to clear the mind.

  • Replacing urges with action (like doing 20 pushups whenever the urge strikes).

  • Building a routine that leaves no space for destructive impulses.

Hard times won’t last, but neither will good times unless we structure our lives with discipline. Strength is built in small daily wins, in holding yourself accountable, in choosing long-term growth over short-term thrills.

Lust vs Love

At its core, lust is about possession and fear of loss, while love is about giving and freedom.

Giving means:

  • Sharing without expectation.

  • Offering your time, patience, knowledge, laughter, respect, and encouragement.

  • Providing strength without arrogance or hidden motives.

Freedom means:

  • Not controlling the other person.

  • Allowing them to be themselves.

  • Letting go of jealousy and insecurity.

Love is expansive—it enlarges both souls. Lust is restrictive—it diminishes both. Love sets free, lust enslaves. Where lust tears off wings, love teaches you to fly. When you choose love, you choose to give, to release, to strengthen, and to soar with unbroken wings.

The Choice

Life constantly offers us the choice between illusion and truth, between weakness and strength, between lust and love. Lust whispers promises and leaves us drained. Love, on the other hand, asks for nothing but gives everything, it liberates, creates, and uplifts.

True joy is not in indulgence, but in restraint. Not in taking, but in giving. Not in controlling, but in freeing. When you hold your power, you discover your highest self. Lust is the abandonment of flight; love is the discovery of new skies.

Every day, we choose whether to chase shadows or rise with wings intact. Choose love. Choose freedom. Choose to soar.

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