Clarity = Subtraction

 There are multiple names to this. Some people call Shiv and Shakti. Some call it Yin and Yang. The idea out here is masculinity and femininity. I want to talk in terms of multiple things out here. I strongly believe in being yourself. However, it's important to understand your strengths and weaknesses as well. For a masculine energy it's naturally very logical and it can think outside of the box. It can take a non-myopic view of life. Feminine energy is the more in the moment energy. It does what it feels like in that moment. Masculine energy brings clarity and direction. Feminine energy brings flow and love. Both are important in its own ways. A lot of times we try to be everything but the truth is our poles lie only leaning towards one or the other. I think we need to understand our role very well in a relationship and act accordingly. If your role is to bring structure, focus on that. Let the rest of the things be the outcome of it. 

This is for sure one of my favourite topics to write about. The universe exists because there's Yin and Yang both. We can't live with Yin only or Yang only. For every thing there's a balance which creates harmony. For example, we have the Sun and the moon, the day and the night, light and shadow, man and woman, good and bad, ground and sky, etc. What I am trying to say is that these things are not opposites but they are what brings life into the universe itself. 

The balance

I believe the universe does exist in a balance. Good and bad. Structure and chaos. Life and death. So what's the life lesson here? Because there's a balance that we want to create in the world we need to understand the responsibilities and importance of the role that we have. If you are masculine, structure is the role. If you are feminine, love is your role. Masculine seeks freedom whereas feminine seeks love. Now structure for anyone who is masculine, they will certainly thrive in that. Without structure it is impossible to grow in a way for masculine. Moreover, masculinity requires challenges, we want our friends who challenge us. We want people around us who put us under pressure, because that's where the real growth happens. I can talk about this forever, but like we saw in the movie Dhurandar, it said, nazar aur sabr filhal. Which means that you should have awareness and patience. That's the most important thing. No need to become successful overnight, it takes time. 

Direction

Your job as the masculine person in the relationship is direction. It is goals. It is single minded focus. Leaving everything else in the world. Focus is that one thing that makes you successful. When you have the right direction, you will move forward. If you are moving forward in the wrong direction you are not moving at all. Now the question to all of us is, how do we find out our direction? What is the direction? My personal way is to stop all the inputs from your phone, from everything, and simply breathe slowly. Go out for walks. Know what you want out of life. In that silence you will find your direction. I am not saying it's going to be easy but when you find that direction you will enjoy life a lot more than anything else. You will achieve more than anything else. You are going to live a life that compounds the growth in the right direction. If direction is to become at expert at something, be that. But remember to do the 4-7-8 breathing. I am going to ask chatgpt to find out a little bit about direction as well. 

Direction is not about saying yes

When we think about direction, we don't want to say yes to everything. It's about saying yes to a few things and eliminating the other things that are not that valuable. It's about saying that the code will speak for itself. It's about saying no to attention. It's about saying no to distractions. Like I said, focus was never about saying yes. Focus is about saying no so that all your energy can be directed towards building something. Towards creating something so good that you bring a lot of value to the world and the people around you. 

Keep it simple

A lot of times, we try to make things too complicated by focusing on too many things. Make focus seasonal. In the next two weeks if you are focused towards completing a course, focus solely on that. Make things seasonal. Next 3 months this is one project, and you put all your energy into that one project. Then the next 3 months and so on. That way you will produce something really valuable to the world and that is the only way to be satisfied. Watching a movie won't really make you satisfied or happy. But doing the creative work will make you happy. Watching reels won't make you happy, mastery of a subject will. 

“If my life was simpler and more honest, what would I be working toward right now?”

I am sure if my life was more simpler and more honest, I would be working towards my promotion and my relationship. That's it. My priorities would be simple. All the other things in life would be a good to have. But these things are a must have. My structure will help me build all of this. For my promotion if I have to do certain things I will do that. If I have to do something else, I will do that. But promotion is the most important for me at this point in time. 

Discipline is your best bet

I think you have to think about and make two lists out here. One is the energy sucking, the vampire type things that you do. You can add social media, YouTube, some type of people, random conversations, etc. I mean those are important but know that it's a part of the draining list. 

Sharpens you: 

- Breathing

- Solitude

- Physical exercise

- learning

- Reading

So when you have the thing that gives you energy or sharpens your thinking. Spend more time on that. In fact, 80% of your results will come from 20% of your work. So filter out brutally and bring out the best in you. That's the only way to grow. 

Clarity = Subtraction

Don't add anything new in your life. Clarity is all about subtracting. It's about specifically choosing what you want out of life and what you don't want in life. That draining friend who calls you for parties, subtract that. That YouTube channel that is giving you lust and making money, subtract them. When you subtract brutally only then you will spend time on what matters. Remember it's just the 20% of the things that you have to do. That's the most valuable activities that you can do in your life. I am sure, content creation is one aspect but that project will come at some point in life. 

Switch off your phone more often

A random tip that works personally for me is that I switch my phone off more often. If the phone is on, there is a chance that you might be distracted. Moreover, I also am a firm believer in taking breaks when needed but the direction has to be clear on where you want to go. Sometimes in thinking about the big picture you will get direction. 

Remember

Direction is not found.
It is claimed, and then defended daily.

Silence finds it.
Focus protects it.
Consistency compounds it.

Action point: 

Decide one thing you wish to be good at in the next 90 days in your career. Be it anything. Dedicate all your time in that skill you wish to improve. Decide the type of life you want to live. Make sure you have a structure around it and I am sure that your growth will only compound from here and it will only go up from here. For next 90 days say no to everything. Everything possible. I am not asking you to be aloof and lonely, but I want you to focus and get better. That's the only way to live life my friend.