Why Ignoring Negativity Empowers You to Achieve More
I wanted to talk about ignoring the negative people in your life. We all get into days which are argumentative and we wonder why did we get into this in the first place, isn't protecting your peace more important in such cases. Oh well, now that I know, it certainly is more important. Protect your peace at all cost is the most important and the rest of the things are fine. Someone insulted you fine, don't take it personally. Someone said something bullshit, bolne do. Someone did something bullshit, karne do, you do what you do. As Priyanka Chopra said, "Haters gonna hate, potatoes gonna potate and rotis gonna rotate, who cares you do what you do". I love that quote, but with time I am recognising the best way to deal with the trollers, the haters, and the negative people in the world is to ignore them.
We all know that negative people just want a reaction out of you so they'll provoke you, they'll harass you, they'll try to say nasty things about you, but what's more important for you to recognise that if you give a reaction they win. So the best way to move forward is to move on and do your work. Do you know what happens when dogs bark on elephants, the elephants don't even know that the dogs exist. They simply ignore them and move ahead in their life, so do you want to be an elephant or do you want to be a dog? So go ahead and ignore the negative people in your life and what the negative comments they say. Just focus on what you need to do in the moment and do that thing.
People only throw stones at trees that really have fruits, after all why would they throw stones at trees that don't give fruits. Understand that when people are throwing insults at you, know that if you ignore them and just focus on the fruits that you are giving that's more important. Ignoring these insults really hurt the person who's insulting rather than you. So at the end of the day, it's the same thing I want to say, ignore them and know that you are worth something if people throw insults at you.
A lot of people don't feel great about themselves, and the easiest way to feel wonderful about themselves is to bring down others so they can feel better about themselves. I have seen this so many times, in parties, in social situations, a very normal person trying to attack someone of dignity and self-worth just so they feel better about themselves. So understand that no matter how much you stay away from people like this, you'll find negative people in life in general who are just negative about anything and everything. They want to feel better about themselves and that's why they try bringing others down.
This quote is telling us to ignore negative people at all costs. They are the greatest destroyers of self-confidence and self-esteem. So what I understand over here is that one needs to say no to negative people. Now by negative people we don't mean that people who disagree with us are negative, we don't mean that people with different backgrounds and cultures are negative, we mean people who believe that there's nothing possible and there's no hope in life. We mean people who put you down so that they can bring themselves up. We mean people who hate themselves and the world. Of course difference of opinion, different belief systems, etc is all that makes us human. A bad day is fine not a bad year.
As the greatest thinker on Earth said, weak people think of revenge, strong people forgive whereas intelligent people simply ignore. Now ignoring does not mean that you never noticed it, but you decided that there are better things in life to do rather than taking a revenge. Imagine once you start ignoring them, you'll start to gain more self-confidence, you'll have lesser negative chatter about what you can and what you can't do, and that's why you will be more in control of your mind and if you are positive about something's possible, then that thing would be possible. You have to first believe it in your mind that there are certain things that are possible and you can do it.
We need to start taking control of our destiny and start believing in ourselves. Ignore people who try to discourage you and put you down. All the negative sources in your life, you need to accept and understand that very well. Now once you understand them, then all that's important is that you simply need to ignore those negative sources. 
Everyone today wants to be happy, but does anyone know the secret to happiness, it's ignoring. Ignore the bad and focus on the good. That is the secret to happiness, for an example imagine you are earning only 50k $ a year. Now you can say oh it's so less my neighbour earns 100k or you can say I at least have my stomach filled with this and I would need to earn more and if I stay positive and see what good that 50k is doing for me, you can then have a hopeful future of earning more. It's possible to earn 100k.
This is so true, when we delete the unnecessary people from our lives, good things will naturally happen to us and it won't be a coincidence. We will naturally believe in ourselves more and back ourselves to complete some things. It won't be a coincidence for sure, I would just say, rather than listening to other people start affirming things to yourself and put your mind with your own affirmations. If you want to say, I believe in myself say that out loud. If you want to say, I can do everything that I can set my mind to, say that. If you say, I am calm under stressful situations say that. Whatever it is that you want to say, program your head with that.
Remember as we code a computer, our head is also a computer, don't program it with bad thoughts that are negative. Program it with positive good thoughts, that's more important. 
Remember whenever someone tries to insult you and try to provoke and get a reaction from you, remember this statement, Mature, Strong and Confident people build people up and encourage whereas small, weak and insecure people tear people down and gossip. So be a mature, strong and confident person yourself.
I have spoken about gratitude before, but think about a goal that you want to achieve in your life. Visualise achieving that goal every single day, tell your self that you will achieve that goal and work towards that goal during the day. Most importantly, be positive about things and situations and know that every failure is an opportunity to learn.
For the next blog I am thinking of changing the pattern, I want to start summarising some really good books and start adding value to your life.
Thank you for reading this and don't forget to ignore the negativity. The best way to respond to negativity is no response unless it's really needed.
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