Thoughts

 I have been really wondering what it is to be a leader. I remember, I was talking to some of my friends on WhatsApp, convincing them why they should really come to Garba and all that. Yes I made a plan, but is that really leadership? If someone said no, they said no. If they said yes, they said yes. But me influencing people to say yes or no, is that leadership? Is leadership about dominating people and getting them to do what you want them to do? Or is leadership more about giving people the power to be themselves and be their best versions. After doing some more research, I realise leadership is not about power, it's not about letting people do whatever they want to do and it's not even letting people do only what you want to do. Leadership is more about the influence, the impact and the culture creation that will eventually empower people to do what they do the in the best way possible. So leadership is not a position but a responsibility. Leadership is about having a visio...

 Actually, yesterday I was talking about standing up for yourself at the cost of the momentary rudeness, however, I was actually wrong about it and today I am going to write about assertiveness. I had one of the days where I had to be assertive in a moment, but apparently when I talk about standing up for myself, I found that I was a little rude towards people and you know what happens when you are rude, you start losing respect of the people who really respected you, so first and foremost folks, if you are following this blog, please please understand don't standup for yourself at the cost of being rude, because there's a fine line between standing up for yourself without being rude and standing up for yourself with being rude so today I am just going to correct myself in that very area.  The first thing out here is to recognise that you can be assertive without attacking others and it is possible to do that. Don't be an example of a person who's just plain rude to gai...

There are days when someone does something that's not correct and you have to speak up. For an example, someone did spit while talking to on the phone and the water went into the food and they do not apologise, you would have to speak up and say go somewhere else and talk. But if we do not speak up, the consequences are even bad. So today's point is about speaking up. We'll discuss why we need to speak, how to speak up and what are the best ways to speak up in any given circumstance. By speaking up, it only means that you are standing up for yourself. In a world that's brutal, that is dominating at times, it's very important to stand up for yourself and speak up. Once you do that, you will really have true freedom. But at the same time, it's also important to remember to choose your battles carefully.  Firstly let's think about why should we stand up for ourselves? Let's start by thinking what will happen if you don't standup for yourself. Let's ...

I was talking to a colleague today from my office and then we spoke about how he would do budgeting in percentages and he would only think about stuff in percentages. We were then going to eat something and then I was talking about 10$ or 15$ and stuff like that, he told me don't zoom life so much that you forget the big picture about life. It's more important to care about the percentages, suppose if you decide to spend 5% of your money on food, it does not matter if its 5.1% but it does matter only if its 15-20%+ when you decided 5%. So he told me not to zoom life so much but too zoom out and view the big picture. That's when I realised that all of us somedays are so concerned about the little things that happen in life, whether it's the traffic you found while travelling or going somewhere, whether its a work colleague who told you something that you didn't like hearing or whether it was a friend who made fun of you and you didn't take the joke well, whatever...

 A lot of times in life I think what am I working for? What is this life all about? Yes in order to live well, I need to contribute well, fine but what makes life worth living? If I keep working and working and working, I might enjoy only to a certain extent. If I keep playing and playing and playing, I will be tired of playing. If I keep waiting for the next achievement when I get one, I keep waiting for my happiness. But in all truth I realised that real joy is in the every day moments. The simple moments, the little things that make life joyful. It's the smile on the front desk that I enjoy watching when I go to work, it's a new born baby smiling and giggling is what I enjoy more than my promotions, not that I don't enjoy promotions, but I enjoy watching a baby smile and giggle a little more. It's the forehead kiss from a lover that one enjoys more than the other things. It's the first drops of rain and dancing in that rain one enjoys, it's the steps of garba...

 Today, I was working right from 10:00 am and was coding until almost 5:30, I definitely wrote a lot of code but at the end of the day, I felt like I don't have the energy to eat. I worked non stop apart from the small lunch break I took, there was absolutely nothing and at the end of the day I was fully drained out. That's when I realised why not write about taking breaks. By breaks mean, it can be anything, break from social media, break from work, break from a relationship, anything that makes you feel drained it's worth taking a break. So today I collected some wonderful quotes to talk about taking breaks.  This is wonderful and I have experienced this myself, taking breaks helps you clear your mind, gain new perspectives and come back with a fresh approach. This is so true, this is so self explanatory, but one example I remember was back when I worked at Amazon, there was a time I was exhausted and then I went to India and when I came back, I was so so motivated to wor...

A lot of times we go to a party or at work we go to standups, or we are just hanging out with our friends, and we say something and then realise maybe I should have not said this or done that. But in reality that would be 10-20% of the times and with all honesty the probability of something going wrong will be there for at most 10-20%. That's where I realised the real problem is not anyone but overthinking everything. So what is overthinking in the realest terms, "Overthinking to me is simply when we think about scenarios over and over again and how this thing can go wrong, how that thing can go wrong, how anything in the world can go wrong." But the truth is if you don't do it, you'll never know it as everything that can go wrong, can go right as well. Oxford dictionary defines overthinking as this, " the  action  of  thinking  about something too much, in a way that is not  useful ". It's simply the action of thinking about something too much, in a...