Thoughts

 Stay in the present moment. I have been thinking about this for a long time. I don't really know how to be in the present moment completely. Everyone get's distracted occasionally, but my goal right now is to be in the moment completely. We all know that there is only one moment. That's the present moment, not the next moment, not the previous moment, just the present moment. The fact that I am writing something, it means that I am in the present moment while writing. It means that whatever I do, I am doing it in the now.  The moment is not found by seeking it, but by ceasing to escape from it. I feel like we all try to escape the moment sometimes by going into the past or the future. However, the current reality is the present and let that be the current reality. We want to be seeking the present moment and not the past or the future. Now what do I really mean by being in the present moment. I mean eat while you eat, study while you study, play while you play and that...

Keep working at something. Staying busy is the key to life and every situation in life. I like the idea of seize the day my friend. In fact, I feel like the more busy you stay with something, the more happier you will be. After all, an idle mind is a devil's workshop. My question is why is it that important to stay busy?  1. Staying busy makes sure you don't get too many thoughts : When you are busy doing something, you don't get a lot of thoughts about anything in life. Good or bad, ugly or worst, you will be working at something all the time. Even if that's cleaning your room, you will be happy with who you are.  2. Less chasing, more being yourself: I have faced situations in life, where I have chased girls and the girls just run away when I chase after them. I don't want to get mad about them. I mean it's very natural for a girl to feel unsafe if the guy is too much into her. However, when you are busy doing something, you will not have too much time to thin...

I was sitting in an airplane when an old lady next to me said,  "Man ka hua toh accha hai, aur agar man ka na ho toh aur bhi accha hai":  If things go as we desire, it's good; if they don’t, it’s even better. This philosophy by Harivansh Rai Bachchan carries profound wisdom. It teaches us that life is not just about getting what we want, but about trusting the journey, even when things don’t unfold as we expect. When Things Go Your Way: "Man ka hua toh accha" We often associate happiness with things aligning with our wishes, getting that dream job, being with the person we love, achieving a long-desired goal. And when these things happen, we feel joy, success, and a sense of control. But this is only half the truth. Life is not a straight path, and our desires are often shaped by our limited understanding of what’s truly good for us. What we wish for today may not serve us in the long run. Getting what we want is good, but it’s not the ultimate measure of happin...

Very early in life, I learned that anything in excess is harmful, be it love, friendship, or work. When something dominates our lives, we must pause and evaluate its balance. Today, many from my generation, as well as the one before us, are engrossed in social media, consuming content endlessly. But what do they truly gain? More often than not, it leads to anxiety, depression, and feelings of inadequacy. Scroll through social media, and you’ll see friends vacationing in Bali, someone showing off a six-pack, another celebrating a promotion, does the comparison ever end? They say, “Comparison is the thief of joy,” and social media fuels this toxic habit. Personally, I’ve noticed that when I spend time on social media, I become overly conscious of others' perceptions of me. Am I looking good enough? Am I too thin or too fat? Are my teeth too yellow? The self-doubt spirals. But here’s the truth: much of social media is a façade. Imagine the authentic joy you can experience when you dis...

 I don't really know what I am going to write today. But I will write something for a period of 30 minutes. So let's go. Okay, so I am going to USA back, feeling refreshed but there's a sort of ambiguity in my mind about a girl. I find it difficult to express myself at the moment to her and I am sure the ambiguity is also killing her. So let me just be open and honest about certain things. Maybe it kills attraction but we need to be honest with ourselves first. So let's talk about being honest and simple about things. We complicate things because our emotions are involved.  So what does honesty and openness really mean. For me it means two things, one is your non-verbal communication and the other is your verbal communication. To me honesty is stating your feelings whatever they are at the moment and letting the conversation move towards a goal and finish line. I feel that's what honesty and openness means. I want to tell exactly what I feel. I want to be there for ...

 Embrace the unknown. There are so many things in life that we fear. Imagine that you fear a particular project, imagine you risk losing something, imagine you risk the loss of a friend, imagine you risk losing love, all of these are risks. But the point is we want to embrace the unknown. What is to life, if we never explore the unknown, if we never know about someone. I feel like it's important to embrace the unknown. It's important to go through the darkest of times together and then come out stronger. It's important to be yourself.  The more you go with the flow of life and surrender the outcome to God, and the less you seek constant clarity, the more you will find that fabulous things start to show up in your life. I love this, so going with the flow of life, and surrendering yourself to the outcome. That is what makes life interesting. Imagine going on a solo trip, you don't really know whom you will meet or how you will stay but with the flow of life you eventuall...

 Just an excerpt from the way of a superior man. Here we go:  One of the deepest feminine pleasures is when a man stands full, present and unreactive in the midst of his woman's emotional storms. I love this quote. This quote beautifully captures the essence of emotional strength and stability in a relationship. It speaks to a deep feminine yearning—the desire to feel safe, seen, and fully accepted, even in moments of emotional turmoil. For many women, emotions can be like waves, sometimes calm, sometimes stormy. When a man remains steady, fully present, and unshaken during these storms, it signals that he is a safe harbor, someone she can trust with her deepest feelings. His ability to hold space without reacting impulsively or withdrawing allows her to feel secure in expressing her emotions without fear of judgment or abandonment. This doesn't mean a man should be passive or indifferent. Rather, it’s about embodying a calm, loving presence—listening deeply, acknowledging emo...

 I was at Dhirubhai Ambani medical hospital and was reading some of the quotes there. As I read this quote, I absolutely started loving what I read. " If you make it a habit not to blame others, you will feel the growth of the ability to love in your soul, and you will see the growth of goodness in your life ." Such a profound and a thought to write about. Imagine you live your entire life without blaming anyone for anything. All that is responsible for your life is you. If you break down this quote, you will realise that if you make it a habit not to blame others. Make it a habit to not blame others. No you going into a toxic relationship is your fault. You losing a cricket game is your fault. You not doing well at something is your fault. And even all of your failed relationships are your fault. I think that's the beauty of life. No blaming, no complaining. We all complain sometimes about the traffic in the world, the noise in the world and sometimes even the stupidy of...

The art of being vulnerable. Being vulnerable requires courage. All of that is true, but sometimes being vulnerable requires so much courage and you know at times when you are vulnerable, you will get hurt. You will be sad, you will be disgusted and disappointed but you will never be able to experience life to the fullest if you are not vulnerable. A lot of us think that being vulnerable is a form of weakness. It truly is not. When you are vulnerable, you are opening up new connections and we all love forming connections.  Vulnerability is not weakness; it is our greatest measure of courage. How beautiful is this quote. I love this quote from Brene Brown. Often times in our lives, we think vulnerability is a measure of how weak we are, but in reality it takes immense strength and courage to be open, honest and emotionally exposed. True courage is not about hiding behind a facade of invincibility. It's about showing up as your authentic self even when there's a fear of rejection...

There’s a simple yet powerful realisation:  You stop thinking about what others think of you when you realize how seldom they do. So much of our time is spent worrying about external validation, about what people might think of us when, in reality, they are too consumed with their own lives to give us more than a passing thought. And yet, this fear of judgment holds many of us back from making bold choices, embracing discomfort, and pursuing our dreams. The Weight of “Kya Kahenge Log” From childhood, we’ve been conditioned to believe that the greatest burden we carry is  “ Sabse bada rog, kya kahenge log ” —the fear of what people will say. It influences our decisions, limits our aspirations, and prevents us from stepping outside our comfort zones. Imagine living life constantly adjusting your actions to fit the expectations of others. You would never take risks. You would never start a business for fear of failure. You would never captain a cricket team because of the pressur...

What? I am not sure what I am going to write today. I was talking to my friend Ankit about how practice is an important factor in life. Everything that you are willing to learn, or you need to learn comes with practice. Personally, I was thinking of improving my patience. So we will have the same structure, the what, the why and the how. So what is practice? " to do an activity or train regularly so that you become very good at something ".   Notice the words todo an activity or to train regularly so that you become very good at something. By doing it means that you actually do the activity, for example, when you play cricket, you practice batting, when you want to improve your guitar skills you practice guitar. This needs to be done for long intervals of time. For an example, if you want to practice dance, you need to dance for long intervals of time and really practice learning dance. If you want to learn coding, you practice coding. If you want to learn anything, you pract...